Ignoring conventional superstition, we prayed together beforehand; our hands clasped, heads bowed, and hearts beating in anticipation of what the future might hold. Folds of white silk and lace embraced the somber black of his suit as we offered our tender hopes and love for another to God, inviting Him to lead us deeper into devotion to one another.
Afternoon shadows stretched on the snowbanks outside until, finally, the strains of Pachabel’s Canon beckoned me toward the young man waiting beyond the rows of upholstered pews now draped with carefully crafted pink bows.
Fixing my gaze on the one I adored, I rejoiced. I’d waited for this moment. Prayed for it. Planned for it. Dreamed of it.
With reverence, I recited the vows…
I, Tammy, take thee, David, to be my lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge myself to you.”
A hopeless romantic and head-in-the-clouds-idealist, I envisioned the stereotypical white picket fence sort of marriage. The kind of hardship-free-life that exists on old reruns of I Love Lucy or Family Ties. Life without messes–or at least messes tidily wrapped with a pretty bow and a carefree smile in less than thirty minutes of struggle and discomfort.
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Years later, I realized those vows were more than his and her towels or picnics on the beach. They represented more than shared holidays and long nights rocking babies to sleep.
The wedding vows weren’t merely a promise. They were words of sacrifice. The giving up of self. A precious gift requiring a daily choice. Will I remain committed? Because despite love and laughter? Hard times came, too.
Choose Today Whom You Will Serve
As a little girl, I held my hand high when the Sunday School teacher asked if any of us wanted to know Jesus. I understood enough to realize His life had been given for me–a sacrifice offered on my behalf so that I might be with Him always.
Longing for the permanence of a daddy who always stayed, I knew my heavenly Father would care for me.
I couldn’t have known the cost of following Christ; the spiritual battles we’ve faced. The hours spent in tears crying out for newness of faith for a hurting prodigal or the countless prayers raised on behalf of a little one confused and fearful–dealing with Goliath-sized anxiety.
As I’ve grown in my faith, I’ve begun to grasp Hebrews 13:15, “Therefore, let us offer through Jesus a continual sacrifice of praise to God, proclaiming our allegiance to his name.”
When sunshine splits the sky and all is well, praise flows from my lips. I thank God for His abundant gifts. But there are times my soul has been crushed beneath the weight of brokenness. Shattered relationships, health scares and hospital visits, depression, and lives on the brink of being lost.
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Sometimes my faith wanes as troubles mount and I lose sight of the truth because Truth doesn’t feel real.
Doubt casts its long, dark shadow and gratitude slips away somewhere. At times, its words manage to lodge in my throat–the Spirit urging mine to speak life. Once in a while, I respond and I’m grateful. And even if my mouth is unable to speak, my heart is encouraged because the Comforter is teaching and guiding despite and through the wilderness.
Much like marriage, holding to faith in Jesus requires sacrifice on the part of the Christ-follower. There is a giving up of something precious and beautiful. A recognition that there will be moments of joy and celebration along faith’s journey. But there will also be hard times.
The question is the same as it is in marriage. Will I remain committed? This day, whatever your situation, who will you choose? Self or Christ?
Because every day…He choose you.
For Personal Study
- Read Joshua 24:1-28
For Consideration
- List some of the ways this scripture recounts God’s faithfulness to the Israelites. Now, consider the last 5-10 years of your life. In just three minutes, record how you’ve seen God’s faithfulness to you during that time.
As You Reflect
- What is one action step you can take to offer your life as a spiritual sacrifice today?
Please don’t hesitate to let me know how I can pray for you. Intercessory prayer is powerful!
Peace and grace,
Tammy
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Powerful post, Tammy! I love your description of your wedding day, and how you pulled the spiritual truth from it.
Thank you for your kind words. Peace and grace, Tammy
This is so great. laurensparks.net
Thanks Lauren! I hope you’re doing well today! Blessings, Tammy
Thank you for these words. Too many times I’m afraid people are looking for happiness in/ with self, instead of obedience to “Deny yourself.” I invite you to share at Best of the Weekend, on Fridays.
Liberty @ B4andAfters.com
Hi Liberty. It’s easy to fall into the trap of looking inward or even outward to family or “things” to satisfy our deep spiritual hunger. May He give us eyes to see He is always with us! Looking forward to meeting with you on Fridays! Peace and grace, Tammy
I think we sacrifice whenever we push away the world in favor of spending quiet moments with our God. We free ourselves of our worldliness and invite Him to sit with us so we might learn His ways, His mind, His plan for our lives. We sacrifice in praise to Him each time we choose His way and not our own. Wonderful post Ms. Tammy. Thank you ma’am.
I agree, J.D. We discover such freedom when we follow Him! As always, thank you for your encouragement. You bless so many with your kind words! Peace and grace, Tammy
Because every day he chooses us. Yes! That’s why I want to choose him every day too. Thanks, Tammy. We are so blessed to have a Father who loves us so much.
Me, too, Lisa. I’m beyond grateful for His sacrificial love! Peace and grace, Tammy
(As an aside, I don’t think your tweet boxes are working…they’re blank :/ on my screen). Dying to self is a daily (hourly? Minutely?) endeavor for me. But choosing Jesus over myself makes my day, hours, minutes go so much more smoothly.
Thanks, Anita. I wonder what I’m doing wrong? I’ll need to figure it out. 🙂